Resources for Young Adults Leaving Home for the First Time

“Adulting is a mindset: ‘I’m in charge of myself. I’m going to be responsible for my body, my bills and my belongings’,” said Julie Lythcott-Haims, former dean of freshmen at Stanford and author of the book Your Turn: How to Be an Adult.

The definition of adulthood has changed. The traditional markers of adulthood accepted by earlier generations—completing your education, leaving home, finding work, getting married and having children—no longer fit many young people’s lives, and that’s OK, Lythcott-Haims says.

“Today’s young adults have so many more freedoms available to them, and I think it’s time we had a definition of adulting that acknowledged that people lead different lives and that there isn’t a lockstep set of rules you have to adhere to in order to legitimately be an adult,” Lythcott-Haims said on a podcast. She defines adulthood as “that sweet, delicious set of independent years between childhood and death where we’re well and able to make our own way.”

For many young people, graduating, living on their own, starting their career and other transitions to adulthood can bring up feelings of anxiety, fear and loss, especially during the ongoing pandemic. They may benefit from seeing a counselor or therapist to help them process these feelings. Counselors can help young adults understand that “they’re not alone and that it totally makes sense to struggle right now. They also may be scared at feeling unsettled, which may be a new feeling for them,” said licensed professional counselor Patricia Anderson in an interview with Counseling Today.

Here are some resources to help young adults make their own way in the world. 

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Taking Care of Your Body and Mind

Handling Your Bills and Finances


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